Are you going in the right direction ?

Many people don’t know what following your heart means. Following my heart? I had no idea that my “heart” had its own intelligence.

“Am I going in the right direction?”

Most people deal with this question by seeking the opinion of their friends and family. I used to be that person, always depending on others expertise to find solutions to my problems.

Some people overwhelm you with their detailed comments on your situation and their interpretation of your life is always influenced by the type of conditioning they have experienced in this lifetime.

Although you can get inspired by others input, such discussions can never give you the answer that is best suited for you.

Few others tell you to “follow your heart” which probably ends up intensifying your decision fatigue. Many people don’t know what following your heart means.

Following my heart? I had no idea that my “heart” had its own intelligence. What if my heart wasn’t my best friend? How do I know if my heart wants to sabotage my growth? Is my heart got totally screwed up by the years of emotional baggage I carried inside it?

Can my heart think straight? Or does my heart need new clothes, a haircut and antidepressants to sit straight? How can I trust my “heart“? These are some of the questions that used to pop up in my head.

I seemed to be doing everything “right” and according to somebody else’s agenda but I could sense something more powerful than self-doubt growing in me steadily.

Now, I wish I had someone back then tell me then that the answer has always been “Yes”. Yes, I was and am going in the right direction.

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How is that? And, how will I know that “Yes” is the right answer?

Everything we do and every step we take in life has a higher purpose. A plan is in action which could very easily be considered divine because it is originating from a space that’s beyond intellect.

Intellect is composed entirely of everything you have learnt from books, other people and your own experiences. So, it is rich in information.

However, the limitation of intellect is that it is finite. Anything that you cannot foresee is beyond intellect, it is an inexplicable learning opportunity.

So, all those horrible things that happened in the past, is it fair?

It might seem unrealistic and even completely wrong to view unjust or cruel incidences as if they have a higher purpose.

No one deserves pain and suffering. But my point is that those horrible things that you had to endure made you who you are today.

Acceptance is not about debating the purpose of every painful situation, although we all do it subconsciously. The Universe works in ways that supports our highest good and you don’t have to take my word for it.

Look back at your life and you might be surprised to find out that your suffering has been an invaluable source of life lessons. These lessons can’t be taught in a classroom.

So, ultimately your life plan led you to enrich your intellect, thereby providing you with the necessary tools to either re-use later or pass them on to your loved ones and the rest of the world.

You might ask me, “Why go through so much pain to learn these lessons?” and to this, I say, it is because we chose this by design.

Human life is all about the experience and the lessons we learn through it. If we subtract all the superficial goals, the journey of life is a pointless, exciting and profound adventure that’s totally worth the effort.

You might still ask me, ” oh, but why the heck?” and to that, I say, just because we can! So, sit back, follow your inner guidance and enjoy the ride.

It may not make sense now and may not even make sense when you are older. However, that part of you that’s divine, your being, just knows that in the end, it is all going to be okay.

Does seeking help makes you appear weak?

There is a very fine line between believing in your limitless potential and deluding yourself into thinking that you are superhuman. The latter has been a deceptive source of suffering for most of us in this modern world.

I am a firm believer of the idea that we can always count on ourselves and that the best help is the one we can find within ourselves. There is nothing more empowering than knowing that failures don’t define us and the act of pushing ourselves every single time just a little farther than we think we can reach ultimately takes us to excellence.

As much as I am convinced of our ability to pursue anything under the sky and beyond, the pursuit of wanting to be an extraordinary achiever can sometimes tend to sabotage our path towards real, meaningful and fulfilling accomplishments.

People often think that those who are successful have a reputation of doing things all by themselves and appearing invincible. As time passes by, some of these people might lose sight of why they do what they do. Even though staying hungry in life can have strong motivations, for some of us, all of our intentions could eventually boil down merely to boosting our Ego and our projected self image.

Being perceived as weak means that you are not living life the “right” way. Hence, all of us love to aspire to be “strong”. In the process of wanting to be “strong” and socially acceptable, we tend to hold unrealistic expectations for ourselves, suffer from incessant self criticism and somewhere along the way, end up feeling worthless and depressed.

However, my understanding of leading life as a “strong” person has nothing to do with projecting an image of being a marvel of nature. It is all about being open and humble enough to accept help and doing whatever it takes to survive and lead a fulfilling life.

The beauty of accepting help lies in the endless amount of opportunities for innovation and expansion, which may not be accessible to you if you wish to do everything by yourself. Not to mention the amount of time and energy you might end up saving along the way. The only thing you might end up losing is your grip over your Ego, which is not costly at all.

Some of the smartest people who mean business know the importance of delegating tasks to experts of the respective niches to collectively create products or services that benefit the world. Inspiring leaders and pioneers of various industries often build their mission with cooperation, collaboration and efficiency as building blocks.

You don’t have to be a leader or an entrepreneur to know the value of seeking help. Even those who think they are aimlessly cruising through life can find and pursue their purpose by overcoming any resistance towards relying on others for help. Help of all sorts is available in this world for those who are passionate in life. Passion can be about anything. You can be passionate about living happily and if you need help with that, doesn’t matter what that means for you, you must reach for it.

It is not about how many tasks you can perform on your own, if you can be completely self sufficient or if you can stick to a rigid timeline. It is really about doing whatever it takes to efficiently create the life you want to live, even if it requires you to overcome your limitations by seeking help emotionally, financially, physically or intellectually.

So, tell me, does seeking help makes you appear weak? Maybe! But here is the thing, who has the time to care?

“Be strong enough to stand alone, smart enough to know when you need help, and brave enough to ask for it.”

-Unknown

Living fearlessly with a wounded heart

Imagining a world full of compassionate beings might seem idealistic to many of us, especially those who have been exposed to public hatred, humiliation and injustice. Change makers, motivational speakers, healers and other visionaries might agree with me when I say that although the idea of awakening to our true nature seem straightforward, there is a lot of work to be done. In many parts of the world, things are getting back to the new post-pandemic normal. Some of us are struggling to re-learn how to function in the world as a social being after having gone through a period of isolation. Some of us have reinvented our careers while others have reframed our idea of happiness. A majority of us consider the past 1.5 years as a period of struggle and profound growth. The relationship between struggle and growth is very interesting to me. The traditional idea of growth involves struggle and rightfully so, because you cannot make bread without kneading the dough. If we were to look at growth closely, we might realise that it is actually a change of state. Just like the myriad of triggers that shaped us into the “thick-skinned” adults, I perceive the recent struggles of humanity as a catalyst for change and consequently, an initiation of growth. I feel many of us have been walking with eyes so wide open for distractions and hearts so closed up for compassion that the wrong things in the world had to become worse for us to take notice of those things.

Acknowledging growth is not merely the responsibility of the change makers and the dreamers. The type of growth that I am talking about is relevant to every simple, average human being. Conventionally, the concept of adulting has been about developing a “thicker skin”, holding ourselves accountable and adapting to the world. While we as a society have come up with a seemingly fool-proof system of adulting gracefully, it is not news when I say that adulting sucks. It is not uncommon to think that being an adult is to be in misery, to be often broke and/or have an identity crisis, race for power, chase after true love, survive heartbreak, evade trauma, starve and jump through hoops until you embody the overrated and possibly borrowed definition of success. I can’t help but notice that there is one thing that can make adulting bearable and that is compassion. Compassion from strangers, parents, friends and well-wishers and most importantly, from ourselves can undeniably cushion the impact of the punches life throws at us. Growing from being an adult who is a proponent of gulping the hard pills down the throat to an adult who not only favours compassion but also celebrates it as one’s true nature, could be the humble beginning of our path towards world peace.

Contrary to popular opinion, compassion is not brought out by broadening our minds or stretching our limits in order to contribute to society. Compassion is neither a monumental task nor an aspiration reserved for the wealthy members of the society. Compassion is the most natural quality we human beings can express with the least amount of effort possible. If you need proof that compassion is innate to us human beings, look at a newly born child. Even the most evil person on Earth would have been a baby, with a soul that is so authentically expressed and a heart so open that it is shaken upon hurting even a small plant. What happens when the innocent little baby grows up? The baby is exposed to layers and layers of conditioning to make it fit for the world, which also includes the process of adulting. Kids think, speak and act from their hearts. Energetically speaking, our hearts are the energetic centre of love and compassion. It is not only the source of romantic love-based emotions but also that of an overall sense of wholeness and well-being that another human being can never give us. It is our soul-base. It is the portal to the ever-expanding internal Universe. It is home to the feelings that make us euphoric, drowning us in the bliss of feeling connected to other life forms and Mother Earth.

What makes the quality of compassion seem so surreal and unattainable is not only because of our own survival instincts but also that of our parents, relatives, neighbours and well-wishers. There is considerable shame associated with being an empathetic human being, especially the shame we are made to feel by those who have been hurt so bad in the past that they had to dissociate from the cruel world by developing unhealthy coping mechanisms. What many tend to overlook is the fact that the construct of life is not meant to make humans cold-hearted. Life is meant to expose us to a variety of circumstances, people and stimuli, all of which can be labelled as merely different forms of information. Information helps us learn about and understand the world and our life. Learning lessons in life is similar to scientific research, you observe and experience everything, collect data and interpret, even make your own experiments, vary some parameters, test the validity of the results and save it for your follow-up experiments. Throughout the entire process of your research, the objects vary but the subject of interpretation is you. They are your results and your interpretations are unique to you and your conditions. A good researcher is aware of the need to be objective while a bad researcher tend to take the results so personally and blame themselves. A good doctor sutures a cut in the skin while a bad doctor accepts that cuts are dangerous, the world is dangerous and hence, never reveals the skin to open air ever.

So, are we all bad researchers and bad doctors then? Do we really need to harden our hearts because the world has been mean to us or instead we seek help to heal our wounds and march forward with our hearts open? Do we live in fear or do we brave the cold and live fearlessly? Do we go back to courageously emanating love from our hearts like we used to when we were children or do we choose to secretly curl under the bed and call ourselves wounded? Whatever you decide, remember that your heart still beats just for you, waiting for you to tune in to the frequency of love.

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Battling loneliness..

Loneliness is crippling and you don’t have to be alone to feel it. It can be silent and the seed of emptiness can grow within you without you even realising it. People love to bury it deep and either escape reality or put on a mask to cover it up. There are several factors that influence somebody’s willingness to seek help from themselves or from the outside world. I come from a culture that frowns upon those who talk about their mental health and those who try to seek help. The traditional desi remedy to any problem is- “if it ain’t broken, don’t fix it”. If it ain’t related to your basic survival, if it ain’t related to you procuring your everyday meal, if it ain’t related to your grades, if it ain’t related to what others in your social circle think of you, don’t fix it. But what happens if “it” is broken? Have you ever asked yourself if you could tell it is broken or not? If “it” is broken, if you are emotionally wounded and you don’t attempt to fix it, your basic survival is impacted by it. If you don’t have a job, you can’t buy yourself food and you end up starving. If you can buy yourself five-course meals every day but cannot have the will to reach for it and eat it, you still end up starving. When your physical hunger is not satisfied, you starve and die. When your emotional hunger is not satisfied, you could still emotionally starve and eventually want to take your life.

Aside from cultural aspects, there is this habit of comparing your troubles with others. Let me blow your mind when I say that being grateful has nothing to do with some people having it worse in their life than you. Being grateful means to be content and thankful for our blessings AND to not dismiss our pain because when you dismiss it, you are undervaluing yourself (your most valuable blessing) , which contradicts the idea of feeling grateful. Over the course of time, the habit of shoving your pain down your gut can either make you mentally explode some day somewhere or can pressure you into adopting unhealthy coping strategies that you eventually pass on to your children and/or friends. When there is no one you know has it worse than you do, what happens? Most people would feel like digging a hole in the ground and staying there, I know I did. It can make you feel isolated in this world and guess what, no one has the exact same life path as you. It doesn’t make sense to say, “oh don’t feel bad, that person has way worse than you” or to say, “There are people starving out on the street, so you shouldn’t be feeling depressed about your life”. Feelings arise first and then thoughts are associated to feelings. That is why you cannot control a feeling but can control your way of thinking. So, it doesn’t make sense to dismiss what you FEEL based on the assumption that your feelings are illogical. They are meant to be illogical, that is why they are feelings. You are a human spirit, not a machine. built on logical reasoning.

For the longest time of my life, I have felt lonely, which, at a point in my life, had exacerbated my already existent emotional burden and eventually led me to my spiritual awakening. Loneliness has been the longest relationship of my life. She and I have been through a lot together and after a decade or more, I finally understand her. Now, we are so in sync with each other that we know exactly what the other wants. Some people tell me it’s sad but although I WAS sad about it for a long time, I feel like it has been a very interesting journey for me. My intention to help myself feel better led me to explore the inner workings of my mind and the unspoken meaning behind the events of my life. I realised that loneliness gave a greater meaning to my life. It made me want to dissect that feeling of loneliness which showed a sense of disconnection from this world. Throughout my teens and my 20s, I remember feeling misunderstood and I never felt like I belonged almost anywhere and with almost anyone. I now know that it has led me to a point in time where I reinvent myself and choose a life vastly more meaningful than the life I had imagined for myself earlier.

So, what to do to not feel lonely? There is no single perfect solution because it really depends on the reason you feel lonely to the extent that it affects your normal activity. For some, it could be fear of abandonment because their expectations were not met by someone in the past which caused them a lot of pain. For others, it could be that at some level they feel like they are not enough for them to maintain a state of mental wellbeing and harmony because they compare their social life to that of their peers . Sometimes, the reason is so deeply hidden that one could have a seemingly perfect life but the underlying cause of suffering was probably from past life traumas. The list could go on and on. I hesitate to give you any quick tips to cope with loneliness because there aren’t any quick tips and if they were, they are evasion strategies and I believe the only real way to cure loneliness is to identify the root cause and work from there. Having said that, there is one valuable suggestion I can give you and that is to be willing to sit down with your journal and process your pain. Help will reach you! If it doesn’t, please ask for it. You don’t have to be brave if you physically can’t be brave. There are plenty of kind souls on this planet who are qualified and who would help you ease your pain. If you feel alone at feeling lonely, don’t be because I am here writing this to let you know that you are not alone. I am connecting with you virtually to tell you that it will pass and you will find peace and happiness or at the least, a way to work with your deeper emotional wounds. If I can battle loneliness and live to see the light, you can and anyone can!

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Way out of darkness..

There are people who love motivational content and there are people who think motivation is overrated. Among those who love motivational content, there are some who respond to “tough love” or the so-called “if your ambition doesn’t keep you up all night, you are doing something wrong” approach. Many others respond to the method of acceptance and letting go approach that promotes healing. Few others respond to “to hell with those who disagree, I love myself, hashtag I-don’t-care” approach. Depending on the issue people deal with at that particular moment of their life, people resonate with different approaches. My encounters with people who don’t believe in investing in personal motivation have taught me a great deal about my own life. People who belong to this category whom I’ve met often tend to express their discontentment with life and humanity in general. They tell me, “Well, all is not well. People are dying and all of these positive messages are bullshit. People are mean. The world is cruel and nothing good ever happens to anyone, at least to me. What do I have to feel optimistic in life?”. I am no stranger to this thought-process.

My understanding is that no one refuses help unless they have been disappointed with the forms of help that often finds its way towards them. Even if you meet the most cynical person in this world, that person might probably remember a brighter time in that person’s life when the belief in the abundance of love and light was unshakeable. Over time, people build a protective shield around their hearts made of what they call “hard reality”. This grew to become an important lesson that was passed on to future generations. In my opinion, gradually. this worldview left our hearts a bit heavier than it was before at every step of evolution. Residual sadness morphed to take a permanent role in our lives and this fuelled the growth of denser emotions such as hatred, depression and anger that never left our system. This is the collective darkness of humanity.

When I began pondering over the collective darkness, I began to realise that there is something very important that the disappointed bunch tend to not realise. It is the fact that they are not alone at carrying this burden. There are people who project a fake life and there are people who project a life that they are constantly striving to live. Most of those who are into promoting a positive outlook of the world have darkness in them as well that they are constantly battling and healing from every day. Most “positive” people you would find right now online or offline are/have gone through difficult periods in their lives. We know how hard it is to get up in the morning and do something worthwhile when all they want to do is sit on the bed and sulk in sadness. So, all we all hypocrites? No, it is not what I am saying. The point I am trying to convey is that people who try to motivate you are not perfect. Everyone works through certain issues, overcomes obstacles, learns from them while they still struggle at something else.

Perhaps it would be useful for those who don’t believe in motivation to know that nobody is perfect. Each lesson that is shared with them by any influencer must be taken for what they are and it doesn’t have to be another excuse for you to feel bad about yourself or your coping strategies. It is possible to learn from others mistakes and lessons without them threatening your self image. Personally, as someone who is a motivational content creator, my intention is never to downplay others struggles and I can vouch for many who are like me that no one in this line of work usually wishes to rub their happiness on others faces. Most people think long and hard in extracting those lessons from their life that they learnt by experiencing a lot of pain and they want to provide value to the world by sharing their lessons. Life is a very individualistic journey yet we all have many things in common. Since each person’s awareness and perception is technically unique, any number of solutions to an issue can be possible and it is up to each of us to accept guidance that most resonates with us.

So, open your arms, give yourself a hug and don’t shy away from seeking help. Even if it might seem hard to believe, there is love and light in this world that is shining on our darkness right now. Let us collectively work through the darkness and find the light in each of us.

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Journalling- dig a little deeper..

“I can shake off everything as I write; my sorrows disappear, my courage is reborn” – Anne Frank.

For some reason, journalling feels laborious for many of us. Who has the time and patience to sit down, open a notebook and write down our feelings, am I right? Even if we bring ourselves to buy a journal and cultivate the habit of writing everyday, it often seems like a feat too unrealistic to fit into our routine. Either we are enthusiastic about writing for a day or two and then, we forget about journalling or we realise the amount of effort that is required and we say to ourselves, “Chuck it, I am just going to watch a couple episodes of F.R.I.E.N.D.S and I am good to go”. I have been there. But let me tell you, I am alive now because of my habit of journalling and I have stuck with it long enough to tell you first-hand, how beneficial it can be for anyone. Journalling is for EVERYONE, is inexpensive and with exceptions, one of the most trustworthy source of solutions because when you journal, you look inward to seek answers. The best part is that there is no rule to journalling and it is all about you creating a safe space for your inner expression. Journalling is not just for navigating difficult times but also for finding out what you value the most in life and help shape your goals. You can use it to track your progress, develop habits and even, understand what kind of human relationships you wish to have in your life. It is also a wonderful tool to help reprogram limiting beliefs using affirmations and positive words. You can declutter your life with it, identify inner child wounds and access your inner wisdom to guide you into total acceptance of who you are and how others in your life behave around you.

I started journalling at the age of 9 or 10 originally to cultivate a habit of recording everything that happened in my life, just because someone at school told me it was a good habit to keep a diary. As a chubby lonely preteen, I derived so much joy from sharing my daily activities to my only friend, my journal. I spared no detail! I would make colorful little doodles in it with my favorite set of crayons and I used to carry it with me to every event and vacation. It was my priced possession! During my late teens, my purpose of using a journal evolved from merely record keeping to finding an emotional release for my moody days. I would write everything I felt on a piece of paper, read it once or twice and then, tear it up and throw it in the bin. Hailing from an Indian household, journalling was my only way of seeking therapy and finding peace during my dark times. With time, I started to get creative with my journalling habits. I was a very indecisive teenager and I used to ask questions to dissect situations. From my teen years through early adulthood until this day, journalling has been my way of connecting with my inner Self. Lately, I journal to connect with my higher Self as a way to not just find solutions to difficult problems of my life but also to help connect with my inner source of abundant creativity. To me, journalling is more than just a coping mechanism, it is meditative and an expression of self love.

Today, I want to share 30 journal prompts that I feel would help many people out there. Some of these were invaluable to me during my self-healing process:

  1. What is important to me?
  2. What do I need to do to tend to things that are important to me?
  3. What am I currently struggling with?
  4. What can I do to overcome this?
  5. Why am I unhappy/upset?
  6. Why is there no peace within myself?
  7. Am I content with my life? Why not?
  8. What am I genuinely good at?
  9. What is my biggest strength?
  10. What makes me insecure? Why?
  11. What am I grateful for?
  12. What ritual/habits I wish to develop?
  13. What are my limiting beliefs?
  14. What is the thought-process that is hidden behind my limiting beliefs?
  15. Are these thoughts true? OR am I assuming them to be true?
  16. What are my true interests? What makes my heart sing?
  17. What qualities in others are attractive/unattractive to me?
  18. What can I do every day that is just for my own happiness?
  19. How can I reach my goals without going crazy? How can I structure it?
  20. Why don’t I trust that person?
  21. Is that person ashamed of me or it is me who is ashamed of myself?
  22. Is that person judging me or am I judging myself?
  23. What can I do to release my anger without hurting others?
  24. Am I sad or am I just bored?
  25. Am I hungry or am I depressed?
  26. Am I angry or just disappointed?
  27. How can I cultivate more self love in my life?
  28. How can I have more humility?
  29. What can I do to coexist with people who are not like me?
  30. What can I do to forgive people who hurt me?

I hope this helps anyone who needs it…Happy journalling! <3

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Stagnancy to flow-state

I remember the last time I felt the headrush of having a billion things to do in my list. I remember every minute lost in finding my shoes and gulping a sugar-loaded store-bought cupcake for breakfast before I had to catch the train every morning. I remember the hunger and fear-induced symphony played loudly in my stomach while sitting in a conference room. I remember counting the number of hours left before I could go home, wear my most comfortable pyjamas and watch my favorite Netflix show while I relish my two day-old greasy pizza for dinner. I used to look forward to weekends and would grab every chance to get a break from working my ass off. I would utilize every chunk of time during my day being creative in some form or the other. I would bathe in the joy of indulging the creative side of my brain. With the increase in the number of corona virus cases, I was forced to quarantine and all of a sudden, I felt controlled by a huge wave of inertia to do..basically anything. It was not laziness, nah, nah. It was something more powerful than that. It was more like a resolve to not do anything, literally anything. It was excruciating considering the number of deadlines that were approaching and the pile of work getting accumulated with the passing day. I knew I had to do something, anything if not something of value but I just couldn’t get myself to do it. This was the most stagnant my energy has ever been and I did not know how to get out of it. I wished for someone to suggest me a magical way to get my life back together. I wished to find a way to feel like myself again. There I was, silently looking out my window, staring at the beautiful meadow in front of me and sinking in desperation to find a way that shakes the lethargy out of me. Today, I would like to share a few ways to transition from stagnancy to flow-state that have worked for me.

  1. Take a shower

Taking a shower not only cleanses you physically but also energetically. When we have spent a lot of time doing nothing, chances that our mind wandered to relive unnecessary painful moments by overthinking are high. When we relive or replay past memories in our mind, our awareness is literally transported to all aspects of those past moments. We may not realise it but it is highly energetically depleting and polluting to our body and mind. Taking a mindful shower with fragrant soaps, favourite music or just quietly enjoying the temperature of the water might help reset our thinking by bringing our awareness back to the present moment and hence, help us make a fresh start.

2. End the chaos within

This has been life-saving for me! Often times, we tend to not do anything as a result of being overwhelmed by the number of things we need to do or the number of issues that are playing on our screen of the mind without even realising it. If you don’t know what to do next, simply, take a notepad and make a list. It doesn’t have to be in any order or structured. Just write away! Once you have a visual representation of what is going on inside your head, you can start the process of elimination. Cross-off the issues that you can’t possibly find a solution, mark the issues or tasks that you can’t solve within the next three hours and circle those entries that you can do something about in the next three hours. Within the ones you have circled, pick the most time-sensitive task and finally, you have identified the immediate logical action to do for the moment.

3. Find an accountability partner

Open your phone contact list and find one person who would either in person or virtually be willing to support your efforts in getting work done that day. Transfer the authority of making decisions to take breaks to them or better yet, involve them in this process by explaining to them what your work is about and what would happen if you failed to do the task. This way, you can’t escape the process by dismissing their knowledge or lack thereof of the nature of your work. When we don’t know how to start, the best way is to take the power of starting away from you and give that to your trustworthy friend.

4. Shimmy to your favourite jam

This might sound counterproductive but stay with me here. Now that you have your accountability partner and your clean psyche ready to work, spend the first 5-10min on listening to fast-paced music that pumps you up and makes you yell to yourself, ” you got this!”. When we want to do something we absolutely hate but must finish the task anyway, the act of listening to your favourite beats can help you connect with that energetically-masculine quality of getting things done like a warrior with swords. The genre of music doesn’t matter as long as it can make your arms punch the air with smile on your face while sitting at your desk. Keep a timer to end your dance session and then, get to work with an uninterrupted focus.

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Finding hope..

Accepting change is hard, especially during the existing uncertain times caused by the Covid-19 pandemic.

Everybody is in pretty much a similar situation, with people losing jobs and people not able to find jobs. No doubt, this is a major challenge faced by humanity.

I don’t know how many of you are familiar with this but there is a major shift in our collective consciousness that has been happening for several months now and it is said to continue for years.

What does that mean for a common man? Simply put, it means that we are going to see more and more people who would proactively choose to be kinder to others.

We are going to see more and more people who value character, integrity and authenticity. We are going to see more of builder-ups and less of tearer-downs.

More and more people are willingly going to emanate love, loving energy and positive vibrations while the negative people will become a minority.

It is like our humanity is going through a very powerful upgrade! This is no news in the spiritual community. While the process of upgrading is painful, my heart is filled with endless hope for our humanity.

People often ask me how I am able to remain so cool without any major career leads as a student about to graduate soon during this time of unforeseeable uncertainty.

I used to be a huge fan of planning, freaking out, planning and then freaking out some more. However, I am also a big believer of destiny.

All I know right now is that my higher Self or what people call intuition, will guide me to make the right decisions and that, I would be guided to do what I am meant to pursue at a meaningful time point.

Whatever issues I face along the way, I trust that I will be able to handle it.

Don’t ask for proof because it is faith without reason that helps me find hope! Faith is always without reason.

Belief is powerful because it can energise thoughts and manifest them into reality.

Even though the situation is bleak for many of us right now, I strongly believe! I believe that we will get through this and we, as our higher Selves, always have our best interest to guide us through this.

You and I are slowly but surely transforming into someone much better, leading a better life in a better humanity, as new citizens of the New Earth.

Some of the best opportunities are waiting for each of us, something much better than what we were to receive and something more suited to each of us for the time period.

If you still find it hard to hold onto hope, I am here to give you hope.

Trust me and join hands with me in believing that we all will get through this because we all are in this together and the future is going to be brighter than we had ever imagined. <3

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Is optimism a privilege?

Is optimism a privilege? There is this popular notion that being positive, motivated and indulging in self care are a privilege and only people who are considered privileged can afford to spend time for it. What does it mean to be privileged? I think that it means having a roof over your head, some money to comfortably support yourself and at least a hobby to keep you happy. But does privilege equal happiness? As a privileged person, I can assure you that it is not, at least for me. I would like to think that problems are always relative, always. That doesn’t undermine the suffering someone goes through. No one, literally no one alive now is exempted from the  life lessons they are destined to learn. I would like to think that every soul has a customized cosmic plan, designed by themselves at a higher state of awareness (I can say that as a God-like state, to make it easier to understand). It is important to be grateful for everything that one has but that doesn’t mean that there is no justification for someone’s suffering inspite of them having food to eat and some money in the bank. What strikes my mind now is that regardless of how privileged you are, you need motivation, self care and any tools under the sky to live your best life possible. In fact, the more misery you are going through, the more you need those tools to keep up from crumbling under the pressure of life. When life offers you help, it is a sign of synchronicity. It means that the universe is listening to you and your higher self is trying to help you. If you are just a bit gracious enough to accept help, it would make your life just a little bit more tolerable and for many of us, that’s a lot! ❤️

A warm heart knows no pain..

” But I do nothing upon myself, and yet I am my own executioner. ” – John Donne

Some people say that pain is good and it makes you stronger. They say pain makes you rise to the challenge and build tolerance. It deepens your character, tests your willpower and pushes you so hard that you create wonderful things with your life. While all of this is probably true for the pain that finds its way towards us from the outside, it is not true for the pain that resides in our minds. We all SAY that we want the best for us. We defend ourselves in front of others. We claim to do things to protect us and push us towards our idea of success. However, we fail to realize the powerful role of the constant presence of a critic, watching every move you make, every step you take and every pound you put on or off. The critic has immense attention to detail and is sometimes, nasty, inhumane and vile. The critic cannot be won over with arguments, justifications and compromises. When you sleep, the critic doesn’t sleep. That critic lives within you, relentlessly working to create and sustain emotional pain until it becomes a background noise in your mind that you teach yourself to put up with.

Self-criticism heavily influences the way we look at ourselves and the world. I believe some of the common behavioral quirks that might affect people around us such as unwarranted anger, jealousy, codependency, egotism and low self esteem often originate from a place of harsh judgement towards ourselves. We all have conditioned ourselves over the years on how to treat ourselves, how to view our actions, how to scrutinize them and how to punish ourselves. The kind of fears we make ourselves experience and hold on to in the form of insecurities end up being what we project onto others.  People start to feel unappreciated, hurt and negative thereby forcing them to distance themselves from us. We often expect perfectionism from ourselves and while we claim to take it easy sometimes, whether we actually let go is a question. Over the years, we create a toxic environment within and around us. We slowly lose the ability to feel grateful, we fail to see the beauty in other people and for some of us, we might even constantly attract negative situations and people. It is a downward spiral that has the power to leave us in a state of depression, dissatisfaction and despair.

Why do we have to brew so much negativity within us? Often times we don’t realize that we all are supposed to be our own biggest supporters and caregivers. We all are supposed to be rooting for ourselves to be a wholesome person who shines from within while spreading love, joy and care towards all beings. Like charity, kindness starts at home. Healing from self-inflicted pain is aided by first removing the shame and guilt that we associate with caring for our well-being. It is not selfish to be self compassionate first so that we can be better humans and serve the rest of humanity to the fullest of our abilities. Although it might be surprising to hear, it is in human nature to love, care and provide support to those in need. To be a giver of kindness, you must first show kindness to yourself. Be your own advocate. Love your quirks, give yourself hi-fives and catch yourself when you stumble. Be patient with yourself  like you would be with a friend. When you give attention to yourself and acknowledge the external and internal struggles you have been through, you begin to heal. You begin to embrace the beauty and humanness of your thoughts and actions. You begin to notice and appreciate the efforts you have made in order to cope with the challenges of every stage of life. You begin to build inner strength in a healthy way and give yourself a hug when needed. Gradually, the emptiness in you disappears and you feel complete, all by yourself. The world would become beautiful and no matter what obstacles come your way, you will have faith that you can hold your head high without blaming others or situations and see the other end of it. You will also become a happier person and people would begin to find you welcoming, comforting and refreshing to be around.

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Hence, always prioritize showing compassion and understanding towards yourself so that you never let the sneaky little critic creep into your mind.

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